Caregiver guilt is very real and can incapacitate you. You can become so riddled with guilt about your decisions and actions that you no longer know what to do.
Accept that You’re Going to Occasionally Feel Guilty
Guilt is always going to crop up as a family caregiver. You might feel guilty for taking an afternoon away or for helping someone besides your elderly family member with a problem. There are a million ways that guilt is going to crop up. So trying to completely get rid of it is not going to help you at all. If you accept that you’re going to occasionally run into guilt, you won’t feel like a failure when it happens.
Keep Some Balance in Your Life
You’re more than just a family caregiver. When you can accept that and understand that this means you need to honor all of your different roles, you’re closer to maintaining some balance amongst those different roles. Take some time to think about all of the different roles you fulfill in your life and examine what an ideal balance of those roles would look like. When you do that, you can get closer to actually getting to that point.
Examine Situations in Which You Feel Guilty
When you are feeling guilty, stop for a moment and really look at why you’re feeling that way. Is it because you’ve done something wrong or is it because you think you should be doing something differently? If there’s truly something that you’ve done that’s incorrect or wrong, you can make amends for that. Otherwise, you need to move on to the next step.
Let it Go
Guilt doesn’t always make sense. That’s why sometimes your only option is to examine it, figure out why it might be there, and then let it go again. If you hold onto the guilt, it does you no good. Learn what you can from the feeling and then release it so it doesn’t hold you down.
If you’re still having difficulty managing your guilt, talk to a therapist or counselor. They can help you to get to the bottom of the feeling and learn what you need to do most in order to get a handle on your guilt.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of Caregiver Services in Great Neck NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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