Having a healthy caregiving relationship with your aging adult is incredibly important but you might find it difficult if you’ve had a tense relationship before. Some of these ideas might help you both.
Keep Conversations Open and Respectful
When you and your elderly family member talk, make sure that you’re speaking respectfully and honestly about the topic at hand. This isn’t about establishing control over your senior or taking away her independence. If she feels as if you have ulterior motives, she’s more likely to shut down.
Don’t Do Things for Your Aging Adult that She Should Be Doing for Herself
As your senior’s caregiver, you want to help her, but sometimes you can help too much. When you’re doing something for someone that she could or should be doing on her own, you’re taking that experience away from her. To preserve her independence for as long as possible, allow her to ask for help when she needs it.
Treat Your Senior Respectfully
Conversations should be respectful, but so should every other interaction that you have with your senior. This allows her to maintain her dignity while you’re helping her. Just because she needs extra help, that doesn’t mean that she’s less of a person.
Avoid Withholding Information
If you’ve got information that your senior doesn’t have and you don’t let her know, that’s a problem. This removes some of her ability to make solid decisions and keeps her from being able to fully participate in her own care. Make sure that you’re giving her all of the information that she needs in order to work with you as you offer her care and help.
Practice Good Self-care
When you’re not taking care of yourself the way that you should, you’re less able to remember to handle communication with your elderly family member the way that you would like to handle it. it’s much easier to fall into using guilt trips, doing things for her just because it’s faster, and basically losing the ground that you’ve gained. Set up a self-care plan for yourself and make sure to follow it.
It’s not so simple as having one conversation with your senior about these topics. You’ll need to talk often to make sure that you’re keeping the air clear between the two of you.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of Caregiver Services in Huntington NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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