Many times the biggest obstacle for a family caregiver to taking respite time is the overwhelming feelings of guilt that can take over. Banishing guilt isn’t something that happens right away, but some of these tips can help.
Remember that You Need to Take Care of Yourself
One of the biggest lessons for any family caregiver is that if you aren’t taking care of yourself, you can’t take care of your elderly loved one effectively. Self-care is essential or you’ll wind up running yourself down to the point that you’ll need your own caregiver.
Remember that Everyone Deserves a Break
Family caregivers can also find themselves ruled by guilt. When they think of taking a break, they feel as though they shouldn’t because their elderly loved one is counting on them. While your elderly loved one does count on you, that doesn’t mean that you don’t deserve to be able to take a break now and again.
Taking a Break Can Make You a Better Caregiver
By actually taking a break, you’re making yourself a better family caregiver. Taking a break also helps to legitimize your commitment to family caregiving. People who are serious about a job take breaks so that they can do that job better. The same is true for family caregivers.
You Have to Recharge Somehow
You can’t continue to give to your elderly loved one and to the other responsibilities in your life without replenishing that stockpile. Eventually, you’ll find that your store of energy, compassion, and caring is running low. You can replenish that by taking the time that you need to refresh yourself. Some people do that by simply resting, others do it by volunteering in other ways or learning new skills. Find the methods that work for you.
You Would Want Your Loved One to Have a Break
Another excellent way to rid yourself of guilt is to flip the situation around. If you were in your elderly loved one’s position and she were your caregiver, you’d want her to have a break, right? If you’re having a hard time visualizing this for yourself, ask your loved one how she would feel. You might just be surprised.
If the problem is more practical, such as not having someone to take over for you, it’s time to hire elder care providers to take care of your loved one for you.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of elder care in Manhasset, NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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