As much as you might want to have that picture-perfect relationship with your aging family member, that might not be possible. That doesn’t mean that you’re not going to be there for her when she needs you the most, but you may be able to be there in a different way that protects your well-being, too.
Writing about What You’re Feeling Can Help You Process Those Emotions
Difficult emotions don’t just disappear on their own. You have to deal with them somehow or they’re going to continue to grow and to become more difficult to face. Writing down how you’re feeling and why can be really intimidating if you’ve never done this before. It’s difficult to be as open as you need to be. The key here can be reminding yourself that your emotions aren’t bad, they just are. Exploring them takes time.
Your Feelings Are Yours, But You Can Get Help Processing Them
Something else to remember is that your feelings are yours. They’re valid and they’re what you feel. No one else can tell you what you’re feeling, but they may be able to help you to work through them. Finding a counselor that you trust and who understands the demands of caregiving can be incredibly helpful.
Meeting Other Caregivers Can Help a Lot
When you’re giving care to someone with whom you have a bit of a contentious relationship, caregiving is that much more difficult. Meeting and speaking to other caregivers can help a lot because they can share with you what they found helpful and you might just learn that you are not alone in having a difficult connection with your senior. Caregiver support groups can be helpful to you in a number of ways beyond this, too.
Homecare Provides Respite Assistance
It’s even more important for you to take respite time when you are able to do so. There isn’t any sort of right or wrong amount for every caregiver to take, but when your relationship with your senior is rockier and you’re dealing with heavier emotions, taking a little more respite time is probably a very good idea. This is especially important if you and your senior tend to argue a lot or if you just feel as if you’re not making the headway you want to be making.
You don’t have to be the only one helping your senior if things between you are complicated. Sometimes it might be better if you do give yourself an extra layer of support in the form of homecare providers. That way you know your elderly family member is in good hands while you are able to take care of yourself.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of Homecare Services in Stonybrook NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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