Alzheimer’s has a habit of trying to drive families apart. Whether it’s a cruel word or action from the Alzheimer’s patient or the mental stress that comes from watching a loved one slip away, Alzheimer’s is cruel and unforgiving. If you’re struggling to form a bond with a parent who has Alzheimer’s, these tips will help.
Empower Your Parent
Your mom or dad is going to forget things from the present day. At first, your mom may deny you told her something that you know you did. Your dad may forget that he called you an hour ago. Your parent will remember things clearly that happened decades ago, however. Don’t try to force more current memories. Empower your parent to share anything he or she feels is important.
Don’t do everything for your parent. Let your mom or dad try to complete a task. You may have to offer guidance, but don’t take over the chore simply because it’s taking to long.
Let your mom or dad make decisions and stick with them. If your mom says she wants French toast for dinner, serve it. It may not be the healthiest option, but she made a decision on her own. Encourage that kind of decision making.
Keep Your Mom or Dad Active
Take steps to enable your parent to remain active. If your mom wants to go to a park with the dog, let her. You can always stay close by and supervise from a picnic table or even the car.
Talk to your parent’s doctor about recent appointments, what to expect next, and the latest news and research regarding Alzheimer’s. If there’s a trial that might benefit your mom or dad, don’t hide it. Your parent may very well want to participate, and you must let them make the decision when possible.
Involve Your Parent in Activities and Decisions
Involve your parent in games and fun activities. You may need to alter game rules, but you’ll get to spend quality time together. Enjoy it.
Always listen to your mom or dad’s fears and frustrations. It may not be easy to hear your mom is terrified that she’s going to die sooner than she wants, but it’s important that she be able to freely talk. Let that open a discussion on what is happening and may happen in the future.
Call an elder care agency to discuss having a caregiver available to help your mom with the things she struggles to do and doesn’t want you being her helper, such as getting in and out of the shower. An elder care agency can suggest the best services and schedule for your mom’s needs.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of elder care services in Northport, NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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