Have you started noticing that your elderly loved one needs to get help with tasks around the house? Maybe you noticed they need help with bathing or other personal hygiene tasks. If this is the case, you should talk to your elderly loved one about the help they need. However, what happens when they are refusing care? You can still help them. Keep reading here to find out what you can do when your elderly loved one isn’t accepting of the help you or their homecare aides are trying to give them.
Have Some Empathy
One of the first things that you should do if your elderly loved one is refusing to get help from you or homecare providers is to have some empathy. Your elderly loved one probably hasn’t had to rely on others to take care of them in a long time. It can be difficult for someone who has been independent for so long to accept help from others with transportation, cooking, organizing, cleaning, bathing, and other tasks. Do your best to put yourself in your elderly loved one’s shoes. How would you feel if this happened to you? This should help you to have some more empathy for them.
No Underestimating or Comparing
Your elderly loved one likely knows they need help. They may already know that many senior citizens need help as they get older. However, you shouldn’t tell them that they should get help because other elderly people need help. Underestimating or comparing their needs to other people may hurt their feelings or make them upset. If you want to get through to your elderly loved one, listen to their side of things. Ask your elderly loved one what they believe they could use help with. This will show them that you only want to be there for them – in their situation.
Talk About the Benefits of Homecare
Your elderly loved one may not realize all the benefits that could happen if they were to receive help from you and homecare providers. It might be a good idea to talk about these benefits with your elderly loved one. You can talk to them about how they can spend time with others more often. You can tell your elderly loved one about the free time they will have to read or do other activities they enjoy if they have people helping them with household tasks. Talking about these benefits might get your elderly loved one to be more accepting of receiving help.
Is your elderly loved one refusing help and care when they really need it? If so, there are some ways that you can get them to be more open to receiving this care. You can start by trying the tips that were mentioned above.