Whether you’re angry about a situation that concerns your aging adult or something in the rest of your life isn’t working the way that it needs to, anger is an emotion you’ll definitely experience as a caregiver.
Give Yourself Time to Think before Speaking
The problem with getting angry isn’t that you’re experiencing the emotion itself. The problem is usually that the emotion can prompt you to respond in a way that you may regret at a later time. When you realize you’re angry, go against your immediate first response and stop. Give yourself a few deep breaths before you say anything. Odds are very good that the words you come up with will be less harsh.
Express Your Anger Instead of Repressing It
If you’re trying to deal with your anger by repressing it, you’ll quickly realize that doesn’t make it go away. In fact, it’s a little like a pressure cooker in that the more you try to push the anger down, the more you feel it. Express what you’re feeling in a loving, calm manner so that you can deal with it and move on.
Give Yourself a Moment Alone
A time out can be exactly what you need. And if you’re feeling frustrated and angry more than usual, it’s probably because you’re not taking time for yourself in the first place. Line up a caregiver services provider to help your senior while you go do whatever feels right for you at the time. You’ll be more relaxed and better able to handle situations as they pop up when you return.
Use that Energy for Good
Many family caregivers forego exercise because they never seem to have the energy. Have you ever noticed how much extra energy you seem to have when you’re angry? Try putting that energy to good use and go for a walk, take a few stretches, or hop on a bicycle for a few minutes. You’ll burn off your anger and you’ll sneak in a few minutes of exercise.
Resolve the Underlying Issue
No matter why you’re feeling angry, there is probably an underlying issue. Look for the root cause so that you can solve that problem. Doing so successfully keeps you from experiencing the same anger over and over again.
If you find that it’s becoming more difficult rather than easier to redirect your anger and frustration, consider working with a therapist or a counselor. They can help you to dig deep and work through to a solution.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of Caregiver Services in Massapequa NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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