The home care services discussion is not an easy one. It’s uncommon for the elderly to be happy about hiring caregivers. Even if it’s uncomfortable, it’s important. It’s often made more difficult by approaching it the wrong way.
Here are three mistakes families often make when discussing caregivers.
They Promise Caregivers Eliminate the Chance of Ever Having to Move
The point of caregivers is to make sure your parents get to stay in their home for as long as possible. You shouldn’t guarantee that they’ll never have to move. You can’t predict the future. Your dad could have a stroke that requires him to use a wheelchair. He may not have enough money to pay for the renovations needed to make his house accessible for wheelchair use.
Your mom could be diagnosed with Alzheimer’s. She’s extremely aggressive and even violent. Medication reminders are no longer enough. Someone has to put the medications in her food and feed her. She’s in need of professional, around-the-clock Alzheimer’s care.
In both cases, home care services aren’t enough. Skilled nursing care in a nursing home is necessary. You should tell your parent that caregivers will enable them to live independently at home for as long as possible. Don’t promise that caregivers will make certain they never have to move.
They Promise to Provide All the Necessary Care
Being a family caregiver is an act of love. It’s also difficult when you’re untrained and unused to caring for a parent. You may be able to handle most of the care services. Can you do the harder tasks like helping your parent in the shower? Could you help your parent with toileting? Odds are that you have a hard time with it, and your parent may not be comfortable with it either.
Home care services can be arranged so that you provide certain things while a caregiver comes in and helps with others. Caregivers also offer respite care services that make sure you have time to yourself.
You Delay the Discussion
Home care services should be discussed before they’re needed. While you can still have the conversation when the time comes, you’re going to be making the decisions while emotions are high. If a parent has a stroke, you’re going to be stressed over seeing your parent incapacitated. It’s not a great time to have to arrange home care services in a hurry.
When your parents are agreeable to home care, make sure they’re included in interviews. Let them ask questions if possible. They may never embrace the ideas of caregivers fully. You’ll just have to keep them involved despite their resistance. Family involvement can make the transition to home care go smoothly.
If you or an aging loved one are in need of Home Care Services in Manhasset NY or the surrounding areas, contact the caring professionals at Star Multi Care Services today at (631)956-8835. We are the Right Choice for Home Health Care Services!
From 1978 to 1986, Sternbach was associated with Automated Data Processing, Inc. (“ADP”)–a provider of information services, where he held several marketing positions before becoming the Director of Sales.
1999-2008 Sternbach was an active participant on the Board of Directors for Proginet–a computer software company based in Garden City, New York. He also served on the Board of Trustees of the Long Island Chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society from 1996-2002.
In 1996, Stephen Sternbach was named “Entrepreneur of the Year” by Ernst & Young, Paine Webber and NASDAQ. Sternbach was also named in Crain’s New York Business Article, “40 Under 40” Successful Business Executives/Future Business Leaders in 1995. While maintaining a diversity of business and personal interests, Sternbach concentrated most of his efforts over the past 28 years towards continuously improving the quality of services delivered by the Star Multi Care Services’ family of companies.
Stephen Sternbach holds a Master of Public Administration from Syracuse University – Maxwell School of Public Administration and a Bachelor of Arts in Industrial Relations and Personnel Administration from Ithaca College.
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